Recently I read a blog post by the oh-so-sweet Katelyn James, in which she discussed the whole "Hate Vs. Help" dilemma -- you know, the whole "should I help a fellow blogger (in her case photographer),  teach them things I know, encourage them, share my "secrets", or hate them because they are ultimately my competition and are going for the same things as me" issue. It really hit home with me. 
I think as a human, it's really easy to choose the hate option, I mean, why help another blogger and teach them my tricks and where I source things, where I find great fonts, or even how I construct things in Photoshop? Why tell them the one thing I have been searching for online for hours? Why allow them to become a great blogger, with information I've shared, just so that they can take traffic away from my site, or better yet, take credit for something I helped with? I've struggled with this so much, and I see it all over the blog world. I'm not a huge blogger with thousands of followers, I don't claim to know it all, but I do know that it takes way more effort to hate other bloggers and get consumed with bitterness for someone else's success, instead of just letting go and helping. We are all in this "blog world" together aren't we? And if we are, I want you to be on my team, not against me. 
I can still remember my first time blogging -- let's be honest, it's a little scary putting yourself out there, hoping at least ONE person comments, or appreciates the time and effort you've spent. If it wasn't for a few people who constantly encouraged me, shared websites, HTML codes, or just left me little love notes on my posts -- I don't know if I'd even be interested in blogging anymore. I'm sure you can relate to your first time blogging as well. I'm pretty sure somewhere along the line, you either took a class, watched online tutorials or even sought out help from another blogger, to help you in becoming the blogger you are today. I know I have, and still do
So what am I trying to say? Well, I think we (and by we, I mean me, I could use my own advice) should be more encouraging and helpful. I want to see other bloggers succeed. Why? Because wouldn't it be great to find new blogs that have the same things on it that I liked, used the same fonts I loved, and were enjoyable for me to read? I think so. 
I know sharing all your "secrets" isn't for everyone, and I'm in no way demanding we all do it, but I think if I were able to help another blogger, in any way I could, it would really help me become less bitter towards them and also just become a better blogger in general. Can you imagine how rewarding it would be to help someone? I know several people have taken the time to help me, not expecting anything in return. So, thank-you to Kimberly for being one of the first bloggers to really help me by sharing your "fame" with me, helping me with HTML codes, and just being encouraging. Thank-you to Kristin + Emily for always leaving me sweet comments and encouraging me to blog more. Thank-you to Julie for sharing tips on how to become a successful blogger and also for your encouragement. And lastly thank-you to Carly who placed my blog on her lists of favorites, without seeking any recognition, and who's given my blog tons of traffic, just because she felt like being encouraging. 
Sorry for the novel, there was just a lot to get out. 
I hope you all have a great Monday! See you back here tomorrow for the instagram + vine blog hop!

Once again linking up with Amber, for motivational Mondays! And Carissa for Miscellany Monday.


  1. Your post made my week! It is SO easy to be a hateful blogger and just keep trying to grow yourself. Keep up the amazing inspirational posts!

  2. I really enjoyed reading this–so thank you! Sometimes it's hard to think about sharing all of our hard-earned tips and tricks with others...I know it's something I've struggled with, but I always feel so good when I help someone out that I realized it was giving me MORE than it was taking away. I recently saw a pin on Pinterest that said "A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle" and it really hit home with this subject!

    The Glossy Life

  3. I love reading your posts, Em! You are wonderful and keep up the great work, sister! :)

  4. great post emily -- you def tugged at my heart strings. i think there are so many of us bloggers that struggle with sharing what we have worked so hard on or to see others take credit for something that is ours. it is def something that i struggle with because i want to give back to my readers bc they are what keep me motivated to blog with their sweet comments, tweets, or emails. they are a blessing in disguise. but hope you are doing well! xo

  5. I love this post - I agree with you completely that we shouldn't make this a competition but more of a learning/teaching experience to other bloggers. I know that I am not a blogger that makes fabulous graphics on photoshop and I am by no means a professional photographer. I have commented on many bloggers posts for years and not once received an e-mail back. I always make an effort to e-mail back everyone who has commented on one of my posts. I also enjoy bloggers like you that are motivational. Not just because you linked up with me - but it is a nice change to read something uplifting

  6. Emily, so nice to meet you and thanks so much for stopping by my blog. I so enjoy meeting new blogging buddies. What a great post! I had no idea what I was doing when I started blogging 3 years ago and I still have so, so much to learn. I want so badly to learn HTML code and have not a clue where to start but I'm about to begin some searching and perhaps I'll be able to figure it out. By the way, love the name of your blog. So cute! Blessings for this new week!

  7. This post was so great and I'm SO touched you included me in it! You're such a creative person and I'm so happy you started your blog when you did :) love reading it!


  8. you are so amazingly talented and it's a true pleasure to know you! i'm always amazed and inspired by what you post! can't wait to work more together in the future!! xo

  9. Aww... That is so sweet. I'm honestly touched that you thought of me. I think this is such an interesting topic, one that I've struggled with quite a bit. Definitely gives me something to think about.



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