Recently I read a blog post by the oh-so-sweet Katelyn James, in which she discussed the whole "Hate Vs. Help" dilemma -- you know, the whole "should I help a fellow blogger (in her case photographer), teach them things I know, encourage them, share my "secrets", or hate them because they are ultimately my competition and are going for the same things as me" issue. It really hit home with me.
I think as a human, it's really easy to choose the hate option, I mean, why help another blogger and teach them my tricks and where I source things, where I find great fonts, or even how I construct things in Photoshop? Why tell them the one thing I have been searching for online for hours? Why allow them to become a great blogger, with information I've shared, just so that they can take traffic away from my site, or better yet, take credit for something I helped with? I've struggled with this so much, and I see it all over the blog world. I'm not a huge blogger with thousands of followers, I don't claim to know it all, but I do know that it takes way more effort to hate other bloggers and get consumed with bitterness for someone else's success, instead of just letting go and helping. We are all in this "blog world" together aren't we? And if we are, I want you to be on my team, not against me.
I can still remember my first time blogging -- let's be honest, it's a little scary putting yourself out there, hoping at least ONE person comments, or appreciates the time and effort you've spent. If it wasn't for a few people who constantly encouraged me, shared websites, HTML codes, or just left me little love notes on my posts -- I don't know if I'd even be interested in blogging anymore. I'm sure you can relate to your first time blogging as well. I'm pretty sure somewhere along the line, you either took a class, watched online tutorials or even sought out help from another blogger, to help you in becoming the blogger you are today. I know I have, and still do.
So what am I trying to say? Well, I think we (and by we, I mean me, I could use my own advice) should be more encouraging and helpful. I want to see other bloggers succeed. Why? Because wouldn't it be great to find new blogs that have the same things on it that I liked, used the same fonts I loved, and were enjoyable for me to read? I think so.
I know sharing all your "secrets" isn't for everyone, and I'm in no way demanding we all do it, but I think if I were able to help another blogger, in any way I could, it would really help me become less bitter towards them and also just become a better blogger in general. Can you imagine how rewarding it would be to help someone? I know several people have taken the time to help me, not expecting anything in return. So, thank-you to Kimberly for being one of the first bloggers to really help me by sharing your "fame" with me, helping me with HTML codes, and just being encouraging. Thank-you to Kristin + Emily for always leaving me sweet comments and encouraging me to blog more. Thank-you to Julie for sharing tips on how to become a successful blogger and also for your encouragement. And lastly thank-you to Carly who placed my blog on her lists of favorites, without seeking any recognition, and who's given my blog tons of traffic, just because she felt like being encouraging.
Sorry for the novel, there was just a lot to get out.
I hope you all have a great Monday! See you back here tomorrow for the instagram + vine blog hop!